To those not versed in the ways of D/s, the concept of ownership may seem archaic, if not abhorrent. But to those of us who have experienced it, the beauty of such a thing is unmistakeable.
When a Dominant claims ownership of a submissive, it is a sign to the world of a mutual commitment. A pact and bond that transcends the normal bounds of what it means to be in a relationship. The commitment is whole and absolute. It is one saying to another, “I am yours, no matter the cost.”
In it’s physical aspects, it breaks any bounds previously held. It gives one free reign other the body of another, with full trust that they will never take advantage of that fact. It gives one the ability to please the other in any way, at any time, and know that they will accept it gladly.
In the emotional aspects, it enables both to be completely open and trusting. Just the knowledge of ownership changes the dynamic of communication. It becomes a constant, open channel between two people, unbroken by any outside influence. No matter the topic, no matter how odd or painful or difficult, both know that what is said is not only said in confidence, but in open, accepting nature.
But beyond that there is a spiritual component. A connection beyond what can be seen from the outside. Just a look opens a link between minds that can’t be explained in simple terms. It is something unique to every couple. A connection they, and only they can ever experience.
There are too many “Dominants” who really only want to control someone in bed. They never consider the vulnerability that must be present in order for someone to truly submit, to truly belong. It gets so frustrating, dealing with these types day in and day out. If you just want to dominate someone in bed… you like rough sex, and maybe a little bondage. You are NOT A DOM.